My mother and father both worked hard all their lives. They both had jobs and my mother looked after the
home and kids. My father had a job in heavy engineering, hard physical work and then he grew our vegetables
and kept chickens as well keeping up with the repairs in the house. I don’t think they ever considered their own
health a priority and they had few hobbies.
Their life was about bringing home enough money to keep the family housed and fed. They both wanted to travel more once they were retired, but unfortunately my father died after a short illness before that could happen. I’ve often thought about this and how they might have lived their life differently if they had known what was ahead. I know we don’t have a crystal ball to see the future, but we now know so much more about lifestyle and how it affects our health. Our relationship with our work or the business we run can often be unhealthy. I’ve often heard it said, “I love my business it’s not hard work”, “I live for my business” “It’s my hobby as well as my income”
It’s great that you do enjoy your work so much that you feel this way. But for many people that say this there is often an underlying worry or concern or even avoidance of the fact that they might not feel as well as they used to or as good as they want. They don’t feel as fit as they used to, they are feeling the effects of increasing age and have accepted it, they may have been very fit and have given this up for the pursuit of their business goals. Then they start to say I’d love to get fit, but I’m too old, don’t have time or don’t know where to start.
What if the lack of fitness or health problems start to affect your business? Your energy and resilience start to let you down. Your business is affected because you’re not looking after yourself as well as you could. It’s okay, its easily done, and we are brainwashed that we must work hard to get the best out of life, we must worker harder and harder all the time. It feels like we are on a treadmill all the time and it’s difficult to jump off. When that happens, you find that you live less, enjoying life and doing things you enjoy disappear because all your focus is on the job. You don’t have energy for anything else and the other things start to matter less.
The elusive work, life balance. Often, it’s a balance that is more of an ebb and flow, a flow that needs reviewing and nurturing by being mindful of the needs of our mind, body and soul. When we really tune into this we can truly work hard and play hard and live life to the full.
You can be aspirational, successful and enjoy your life. But it is tricky to do alone, I act as a guide to help others find balance in all aspects of their live - Jane.